Monday, December 5, 2011 7:21 PM
It's all in my mind.
I don't recollect that I ever used the word "handsome" on a guy before.
Perhaps this is the effect of having been told by friends that 我审美观有问题, that I began to wonder the meaning of the word.
For girls, I have no qualms using the word "beautiful", though I feel more at ease using "pretty" instead. Call me weird if you please. -.-
What on earth is "handsome" supposed to be?
No offence to the guys I know, but if it's supposed to cause girls to salivate, I have never seen one handsome guy.
So sorry, I don't salivate over guys. I am not planning to be proven wrong. ^^
(I would under no circumstances like to be asked "what about over girls?" by the way)
I particularly remember that time Siyao showed me a poster of the Boys Over Flowers and asked me who I found looked most handsome/cute.
... it was superbly trying for me. Not because I couldn't choose who but rather that they were all just okay-looking to me. ._.
Now I apologise in advance to any guys reading this post if it sounds disagreeable. Sorry. ._.
1. Not okay looking. This speaks for itself, but not often do people get categorised under here. I shall not be vulgar or hurtful and use "ugly". Yet sometimes, albeit rarely, people like Pattinson gets thrown into this category because their physiognomy contrasts too much with the context of what he's supposed to be. Too bad.
2. Okay looking/agreeable. This covers the vast majority of guys I know. I do not equate this with "plain" or "boring", 所以请不要自作聪明 and infer. Okay looking is not a negative term. Purely neutral.
3. Nice/ good looking. There's this quote in Jane Eyre that might present my stand better: "gratitude, and many associations, all pleasurable and genial, made his face the object I best liked to see; his presence in a room was more cheering than the brightest fire"
When I say "good looking", I'm probably speaking of an opinion rather than a fact. Fact- it's for the majority to judge, isn't it? Whether the features of the face are at the ideal spots, the figure, and whatsnot with the hair and eye colour etc. For those who are deemed "handsome" and I agree, "good looking" it is.
For those who don't profess to look that stunning. When I say "good looking", it's that, to me, you look nice. I'm not critically evaluating your exterior anymore, but the overall feeling when I think of you or see you. Bias perhaps, from the friendship or time spent.
Treasured friends, closer squadmates... some relations like my cousin, my uncle... my father (oops ^^)
Well, sorry to the above people that I may keep my eyes on you. ^^
I won't say the same thing for girls though. In fact, I'm not even going to dedicate a single word on that-
many a times a single word would hurt so much more than anyone planned, even if it were meant as a joke or purely commentary. (by this I am assuming that guys can take it better)
Furthermore... compliments won't have the best effect unless it was from the quarter it was desired of. Is it not?
In the end, I do believe that "beauty is in the eye of the beholder".